In fact, a breakup can be the most difficult thing a person has ever experienced. We are in daily contact and some of you have suggested this is not healthy for my sake- but I don't want to cut him off and leave him with no one to talk to. They may also turn to addictive habits like recreational drugs, drinking, gambling or pornography for the same reason. He has been on an emotional roller coaster lately with his daughter and very distracted, not feeling well often, and tired. Will probably be bacfk to get more.
Im starting to feel same feelings. A sympathetic ear will not make him feel better. Open yourself up to new languages, people, and cultures. I think it is because of his depression. The depression that comes after a break-up.
John's Wort and the Treatment of Depression. I texted him every so often to let him know I still loved him and I was thinking of him and was there if he ever wanted to talk. Until one day after being so tired — I questioned the lack of interest in me. She told me she would help herself, but ultimately that is up to her to actually do. My boyfriend did that for a while, and it was a really painful period, but I knew enough that I wanted to hold on at that point, because it was depression. If you just let go for a while, he might come back to you by himself.
It is for me to have time to understand myself, cope and fight off the depression in order to help myself. I told him I would give him some space but he continued to text me. About two or three days later, he decided to take himself to the hospital. So for all those who come here to share your stories, take heart in knowing your not alone, but dont be the person who hangs on to something that is long over and has will never mend. Once the month is over, you can go back to him and demonstrate the new positive and lovely person that you have returned to being. Less than a month ago we were discussing our future, kids, and everything.
She said that if Ii tried to contact her, she probably wouldn't mind that. I do know that unless someone has knowledge of depression i. I feel as though I am reading parts of my own story. I too have now had to let my husband go. You are obsessed with your ex. The ones who are the closest and most effected by our depressed loved ones. He proposed me for marriage and I was very happy with him.
Find sneaky ways to be a little healthier. Some of the pain you're feeling is your pride's pain, not your heart's. Emotional pain of relationships is devastating and crippling for me and Ill never be able to trust them or myself enough again. What I experienced this morning was that by doing a fun activity with a friend, my focus on my relationship and depression was more turned to the moment playing squash. Sometimes depressed people blame themselves for their pain, sometimes they blame their partners. Depression causes the changes in behavior, even personality, but depressed partners still need to own up to the damage and pain their actions have brought about. This is a very old post, but a very new situation to me.
I don't understand how he could just give up on 8 years and a future we were planning seemingly overnight. If the aftermath of a breakup begins to affect your mental health and general well-being, it's time to do something about it. My question is that his feeling loss is cause of the depression and self hate, or he simply fell out of it? In other words, take care of yourself. Breakups are rarely going to be easy; however, with healthy tools and motivation, we can heal. I wish him the best and I want him to be well.
He can not see the future positiv he feels empty. What do I make of all this, this time around? He tried switching medicines and still does to this day to get some relief and try to be stable. Then I had a family emergency with a lot of things going on already, and instead of being there for me he yelled at me, insulted my family, grabbed me, started sobbing asking me not to break up with him, and insisted he come with me when I met my family during our crisis. He told me that these two months have been stressfull and that he does not want me anymore. It's a very selfish position in a relationship. Some of them may not be related to your ex at all.
He has agreed to see a psychotherapist - but that will not be for another two weeks or so until he can get an appointment. I was thinking I should have said something, make him see it is the depression talking not him, but I did not. I know he feels like he has made this decision and has to stick with it- I just want to scream in frustration and let him know that I am happy to support him through this. It got to the point where the simplest compliment would overwhelm him. Depression also takes a toll on your physical health.